Before I go any further with this story let me back track a little. I am trying to keep this blog as anonymous as possible because I want to protect myself and those around me. I don’t want any of my friends or family to stumble upon it and get hurt because I’ve written about them. I want to also be free to write what I feel without censoring myself for fear of being found out. This is why I use names that are clearly fake and I’ll avoid giving you too much information about my location. However, there are certain notable things I need to disclose to my readers if they are going to be able to truly understand my story.
One of them is about MR BIG BLUE. It involves The Big G or God, as he is known to most people. MR BIG BLUE is very religious and not just in the conventional way of going to Church at Christmas to please your Mum. He is very involved and it is basically his life. MR BIG BLUE is a Hare Krishna (Yup, one of those happy clappy shaven-headed guys with a strange pony tail that you see singing and dancing on the streets).
Religion was one of the things that tore us apart in the first place. When I met MR BIG BLUE he was a normal kind of guy who partied hard, got drunk, smoked (I put an end to that habit), watched rugby, went out to restaurants, watched movies, liked to spend money on fashion and material things and then that all changed. He has always been into spiritual things before and we had discussed his beliefs so it wasn’t a huge surprise to me and I was open-minded anyway. But what did bug me was his fanaticism.
At first I found the things he talked about quite fascinating. I attended a few festivals which were a bit overwhelming for someone like me who wasn’t brought up with religion. But I was willing to give it all a chance. But then he started to get too much. He changed his diet and wanted me to as well. I was already pretty much vegetarian so it wasn’t a major sacrifice. But then he didn’t want me to drink which made it difficult for me to go out with my friends. He started to spend more and more time at the temple and away from me. This made start to despise the religion. He stopped going to work because he would rather be at the temple. He said he wasn’t interested in material wealth anymore.
Eventually he got fired from his job. This gave him even more of an excuse to spend time at the temple with the devotees. This is where he met the Other Women. I didn’t know it at the time like I said. I felt the Hare Krishna’s were taking my best friend away so I stopped going to their temple with him. I stayed at home instead, focused on my job and spent time with my ‘normal’ friends. When we did spend time together he would just badger me. So I’d get angry and point out all the hypocrisy in religion (not just his).
It all ended up getting too much. We started to fight really badly. So I told him we needed to be apart. He moved into the Hare Krishna temple and began reconnecting with his faith.
We’ll chat about my attitude towards religion and how it’s changed in future posts, of that I am sure. But for now I will bring this post to a close by throwing the floor open to you my dear readers. Have you ever dated a religious person? Did you have to change your lifestyle because of it? What would you have done it my position? Also, what are you views on me keeping this blog anonymous ? Am I doing a good job so far or do you think I’ll eventually slip up and give myself away? … Let me know what your thoughts are on these issues. I look forward to some good debates. 🙂
For now my pumpkin pies.
Lots of LOVE
Cinders x o x o