Howdy to y’ all my beautiful followers…Welcome to February the month of LOVE and the birth of fabulous Cinders (Gosh, it’s not going to be easy is it? But let’s give it a go anyway. Shall we?)
Today, I am going to tell about the Other Women (the first one for 2012/2013 not the Divorcee). At first I was going to discuss her in the second Counting My Blessings post but it was getting too long and I thought it was a bit much calling her a friend.
Let’s start by skipping to New Year’s Eve. Mr Big Blue had left the city for a bit of break and I was milling about at the temple. I was feeling a bit down and over the previous few days I had been feeling like I had to make some changes. I was fed up of holding on to animosity that I had with the Other Women from almost two years ago. It was very all of a sudden but I basically decided to go up to her and tell her that I was over creating an atmosphere every time we saw each other. I apologised for my part in our past fights. Basically I ate a huge slice of humble pie.
The Other Women actually turned out to be quite sweet, she asked me what was up and whether I was OK. I ended up telling her that things were messed up and that I thought maybe MR BIG BLUE was involved with the Divorcee. I told her that I’d heard on the grapevine that MR BIG BLUE had lied on his holy scripture (but at that stage I didn’t know what the lie was actually about). She was surprised as she didn’t know that I already knew. We ended up talking for a couple of hours that day. She told me her side of the story….
According to the Other Women, she first met MR BIG BLUE when he started to spend a lot of time at the temple (which subsequently contributed to him losing his job) and then they got talking. It seemed like she knew I was still in the picture and when they started to get close she told him to end things with properly with me because it wasn’t fair on either of us.
There was this one incident I remembered when I started to receive weird messages from him saying that he wanted to end it, blah blah blah. But I immediately knew it wasn’t him who sent them. I remember that I immediately assumed it was her that hacked his account (although I had no proof whatsoever) and when I told him at the time he told me I was mad in the head. Later when information about his affair came to light, I asked him about the incident and he confessed it was her but she was mental and had stolen his phone and sent me the messages. When I spoke to the Other Women she said that in fact he had given her the phone and told her she could send me whatever she wanted.
She said that part of her current issue with him was that he’d managed to get her banned from the temple by painting her out to be a home wrecker that had tried to destroy our relationship by contacting me on a number of occasions and making false allegations about him. There had been some previous incident between her and a married man which simply served to back up his story. She gave me a lot more detail about their ‘relationship’, apparently when we moved apart and he moved into the temple, the plan had actually been for him to go to her home town and meet her folks and then they’d go to India and get married (a little far-fetched maybe?!).
While we did reconcile our differences and both admitted we threw some low blows, I am going to take everything she says with a pinch of salt. It’s clear she has a bit of an agenda. I emailed someone who should be able to be trusted, let’s call him the Marigold, who was fully aware of the conflict that had existed between me and the Other Women, and even he told me not to get to close to her as there was a lot of controversy surrounding her. So moving forward, I will maintain amicable relations with the Other Women, as she could be a potential source of information but I won’t take anything she says as gospel.
So there we have it folks, the story turns and becomes more and more weird (and you really haven’t heard the last of it)…. So now over to you guys….What do you think of me reconciling with the Other Women? Is it a good thing or do you think I am playing with fire? What would you do moving forward? Do you think she can potentially give me any real insights or do you think its more likely that I will end up manipulated by her?
I always value your thoughts and advice so do let me know what you think.
Thanks again for reading my dribble.
LOVE you all the way to the moon (something I used to say to MR BIG BLUE) my little wise owls.
Cinders x o x o