In my last post I briefly touched on my conversation with the Other Women. I listened carefully to what she had to say and at first I started to believe most of it. This was mostly because I was upset. MR BIG BLUE had basically gone into hiding and his attitudes towards me started to change for no reason. It was all very weird and I needed answers. However, after a few days I received a very short email from Marigold basically telling me not to get to close to the Other Women as there was always a lot of conspiracy surrounding her.
This got me thinking about some of the more crazy things she had said. Firstly, there was the whole marriage thing. Seriously?! What planet was she on?! MR BIG BLUE introduced me to his parents within a month of us going out (to be fair I was only in the country for 7 weeks, so it was pretty much now or never when it came to meeting the family). And I wasn’t the only one, the girlfriend before me had also met his family. However, this wasn’t the case with the Other Women. It also doesn’t seem to be the case with the Divorcee. MR BIG BLUE also met my folks before I moved across the world to be with him. But again, no such thing with the Other Women. It just seems a little odd to me that he’d make such crazy plans to elope to India and get married to someone none of his family or friends knew of? I am pretty close to his Mum and I asked her straight out if she’d heard anything about the Other Women and she said no, as far as she was concerned she is one of the few people I can trust wholeheartedly. So this whole marriage story has a few holes in it as far as I am concerned. What do you guys think? Could he have manipulated her into believing he was going to go to India and marry her? Or do you think it’s more like this crazy concocted this story?
Now here is the more scandalous part of her story. So I already mentioned that she’d been ostracized by the Hare Krishna community because apparently MR BIG BLUE had made her out to be a home wrecker, as had some other guy before him, let’s call him Drumbledread. According to her she was not a home wrecker but an innocent girl who was going through a hard time. MR BIG BLUE had played the Knight in Shining Armour and made her feel safe, loved and cherished and she had blind to his evil ways. Later, when he realised that she had nothing to offer him (apparently she was spending a lot of money paying for his lawyers representing him an unfair dismissal case) he came running to Ol’ Faithful aka Cinders :-P. The Other Women said she was now putting together a case to prove her innocence with the help of the Oracle. She said she had the testimonies of 2 more girls that MR BIG BLUE had harassed in a similar manner but she wouldn’t give me names or any other details because apparently these other ladies were very scared of MR BIG BLUE and what he could potentially do to them.
When I processed this information it made me crazy angry, sad and heartbroken.
Could I have really been in a relationship with someone for over 5 years and not known there was a whole other side to their personality? Was MR BIG BLUE really some kind of PREDATOR taking advantage of vulnerable women? Was he leading a double life? Could the Other Women have potentially made up these two supposed victims? Maybe roped in a couple of her friends to help her out? On the other hand maybe all of these girls are ashamed of themselves and feel the need to hide away … after all most religions are very patriarchal, right? Why didn’t the Hare Krishna movement do anything to protect the Other Women and the rest? If MR BIG BLUE is so dangerous why aren’t the Hare Krishnas doing anything to protect the Divorcee (someone who is well-liked in their community)? And if he is the bad guy, why were the Hare Krishna community so quick to ostracize the Other Women whilst letting him roam free?
Questions, questions and more damn questions. Now over to you for your thoughts on this whole messy affair.
Till the next time we meet for an episode of sordid MR BIG BLUE antics.
Lots and Lots of LOVE to my puppy dogs.
Cinders x o x o