A Second Date of Convenience?

Yay! After all my pining I did get my second date with JSWIPE!

I would be raving more but thanks to a debrief with Tatyana and Dr Sparkle … I’m not so ecstatic anymore.

OK let’s rewind to Saturday. I had a provisional Tinder date planned with this guy called Big Head that I’d been chatting too. He had said he’d confirm where to meet on Saturday morning but that came and went but there was no arrangement made. This was pretty annoying because right now I’m trying my best to keep busy and I don’t particularly like having empty evenings and if I knew he wasn’t going to bother I would have made some alternative plans.

Anyway, so in the end I decided to meet a friend for lunch and chat and then afterwards I spent the afternoon/early evening sitting in a café with my computer. During this whole time I’d been messaging JSWIPE and telling him what I was up to and I ended up mentioning that I was hanging out at a café in his neck of the woods. He then suggested maybe he could come and join me. I was sort of at a loose end so I thought why not.

He came and met me and then we decided to go for dinner. The restaurant was very nice. A pretty romantic spot – it was nice sitting outside surrounded by twinkly lights. The conversation was great again. We talked about everything from his furniture shopping issues and my new house to my future career plans and the time he spent working overseas. It was actually really good to talk about something meaningful and being around someone who is really passionate about what they do has really made me think about making some drastic career changes and possibly going back to studying. He was very encouraging about that and gave me lots of advice on how to progress.

JSWIPE made no moves during the dinner, so I was starting to think he wasn’t interested in me on any other level than good conversation (and to be honest I would have probably been OK with that because it’s quite rare for me to find someone who I can chat to for hours and lose track of time). Even walking back to his car, there was nothing which was a bit disappointing because I would have loved to kiss under all the twinkly lights (Cinders is a cliché I know).

It was not until he drove me back to my car and we were saying goodbye was it that he kissed me. And yes he does kiss well. We decided the night was still young and he suggested going to get some more wine and taking me for a tour of his work place. It’s located in this old historic building with pretty views of the city, so I was all like yay. (Yes, I know I have been warned about going to secluded places with strange men – but I gave into my sense of adventure and went with it.) It was a lot of fun…he took me back to his office and we discussed philosophy (yes, really) and listened to jazz till like 1 am when we decided we should head home (to our respective apartments).

Sneaking into old buildings can be fun - after all we only live once, right?
Sneaking into old buildings can be fun – after all we only live once, right?

Oh but here’s the embarrassing bit…after he’d taken me back to my car and we’d said our goodbyes. I was so smitten and caught up in the moment that I drove away without my lights on. JSWIPE had to chase me down the highway … beeping to get my attention (because I had music on) to get my to put them on. (See he is not all bad, right?)

Sounds like a pretty good date right? Maybe he is not the ‘one’ but he is rather entertaining and I have fun with him.

Anyway, those were my thoughts on it till I met up with Tatyana and Dr Sparkle. Tatyana was quite excited at first and she could relate to my love of adventure. But Dr Sparkle was totally cynical…saying that the date wasn’t all that and the restaurant that we’d been too was overrated. Talking about putting a dampener on things. Then both Tatyana and him ganged up me and said that I shouldn’t have agreed to going on the date at such a late stage. They said that it was only a date of convenience and if I hadn’t happened to be in the area JSWIPE wouldn’t have bothered to make any effort with me. I left that debrief feeling a bit glum.

Do you agree with them? Do you think I was acting too eager by agreeing to a last minute date? Was It just a date of convenience? Do you think I am crazy for following my sense of adventure with JSWIPE rather than being more sensible? Does this sound like it could be a bit of a rebound relationship? Is it OK to carry on with a guy that you are attracted to but know deep down things wouldn’t work out with? And what’s with Dr Sparkle being the voice of cynicism?

Love all your comments and advice. I am generally feeling a bit more optimistic about life now.


Cinders x o x o